A great relationship is about complete honesty.
It’s about a pure flow of thoughts, emotions, communication and understanding. When this the exchange is completely honest, with both parties confident that whatever is said can be worked through for the better, a relationship thrives.
When the pipeline of communication gets blocked or shuts down, I don’t do well.
I start questioning myself, the other person, making assumptions and this leads to my side of the pipeline getting all backed up with shitty thoughts.
I start making assumptions, start getting too much into my head and start taking irrational action.
My relationships, the close ones that hold weight and true-value, have to be built on a foundation of complete honesty.
When communication is crystal clear and each party is honest and we can talk without irrational worries, WE’LL fly high :: I’m not afraid to tell you how it is, to explain my thoughts or feelings, to communicate freely, to share myself with the understanding that whatever I say can be talked through if the other person is also honest. And it will result in a healthy relationship.
But it’s a two way street.
And when, in my relationships, this agreement isn’t clear or agreed upon, and the pipeline isn’t running well, I get all backed up with shitty-ness.
(This is hardest to establish in new relationships…?)