The Fucked Up-ness of Modern Dating Mixtape

On the grand scheme I’m just a participant in the game of life, trying to figure out my path to living a great story :: a big part of which is finding My Girl.

I have questions on questions about this area of life, some that can be answered through other’s knowledge and experiences, some I have to learn on my own.

We’re all exploring our own sexual paths, which is why Part 1 got so much love. (Thanks!)

I said Part 2 is coming, and it is, and so is Part 3 and maybe some more. But I’m still refining them. Give me some time!

In the mean time I want to share some interesting perspectives and thoughts I’ve found while doing my research. Some are online articles or websites, some are feedback from Part 1 and some are new ideas I’d like to throw into the mix. Some are from girls, some are from guys, all are about issues that affect us in the young adult dating world.

Why Have Young People in Japan Stopped Having Sex?

An interesting article from The Guardian about how a combination of culture, careers and fears sexually impact young adults in Japan.

“A survey earlier this year by the Japan Family Planning Association (JFPA) found that 45% of women aged 16-24 “were not interested in or despised sexual contact”. More than a quarter of men felt the same way.”

Why Are So Many Professional Millennial Women Unable To Find Dateable Men?

One night I was out to dinner with an ambitious 30-ish year old woman who complained about not being able to find men on her level. Our conversation ranged from career focus to guys dating younger girls to time. This article addresses this issue.

“Millennial women have taken it for granted that they will pair up with equal partners. But increasingly, there aren’t enough of these men to go around. Women now outnumber men on college campuses, and single, childless women out earn their male counterparts.”

6 Ways of Looking at College Hookup Culture

“After eight years of on-campus research, talking to more than 1,000 students, faculty members, and university administrators, the religion and sexuality scholar has concluded that hookup sex is so prevalent as to feel almost obligatory, and thus ‘can be just as oppressive as a mandate for abstinence.'”

Do Girls Need To Approach Guys to Get a Date?

Written by my friend Chelsea, this inquisitive post brings up a rising issue of equality in the dating field :: Should girls take initiative in approaching guys? This post made it to the “Featured” section on, in the process acquiring 30+ comments. Obviously it’s a big issue.

“I’d like to raise the question: as we’re discovering the world of dating in the 21st century, do girls have to be the ones to approach guys to get a date?”

Five Ways Technology Has Ruined Dating and The End of Courtship

Two posts on how technology has influenced dating. This is a big one as more and more apps and dating sites emerge. I’ve heard from both sides with pro’s and con’s. It’s obvious there’s no going back but what can we do about the changing atmosphere? My friend Becca’s thoughts on how social media and relationships ::

The Dating Problems with Social Media

Can Men and Women Be Friends?  and Men and Women Can’t Be Just Friends

This is an interesting topic that comes up quite often. Some people don’t think it’s possible while others have made it happen. “She’s like a sister to me…” but what happens between a platonic friendship when one of the members starts a serious relationship? I’ve lost friends to this situation and have also witnessed problems arise when spectating second hand.

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I’m just asking questions :: if you have answers or more questions, please share them below.

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